Figuring it Out Vs. Allowing it to Happen

This is by far one of my biggest struggles. I am one of those control freak type people (hey don’t judge me) that likes to know from step A –Z, how I’m going to accomplish something, whether it’s a trip to the grocery store or buying a new car. If I don’t already know HOW I’m going to get something then I feel like I must “figure it out.” But that’s not really the point of all this life stuff is it?

Aren’t we supposed to be enjoying the journey of life unfolding, while trusting in the universe and allowing the potential of all there is to bring us exactly what we’ve desired? I mean, at least that’s what I’ve been studying since… you know… birth. Though I know the process, this allowing, this letting go of the control is by far one of my greatest points of expansion.

All through life we are basically told we should have all the answers and if we don’t have them we should find them. But what does this cause other than stress and a general lack of appreciation for what we have? In searching for something “better” we often lose focus on what we’ve already accomplished and push aside the importance of being grateful for what we already have.

What if today, we all decided to put just a little more energy into appreciating NOW (‘cause that’s all we really have anyway) and releasing the control over the things we frankly don’t know the answers too? I bet if we just allowed ourselves to feel genuinely good about what we have, we’d be one step closer to manifesting those things we so desire.

In the words of someone I totally adore, “Just a little something to think about.”

Love,

Allowing Others To Be Who They Are

I know some are already saying, “I already do that.” But do we? We are all governed by our beliefs, whether they are moral, spiritual, political, etc. And pretty much everyone likes to believe that their POV is valid or right. So in our humanistic way of thinking sometimes we fall into the trap of believing that if our beliefs are right then someone else’s must be wrong. And then we feel that we want to do the right thing by helping others change “the error of their ways” by bringing them over to our way of believing or thinking.

Often I see others who are living lives that don’t seem to benefit them or serve their highest good, but nevertheless they seem to be hooked into their way of life. It is very difficult to watch others (especially others that we care deeply about) travel down a path that seems to be harmful to them. To stand back and do nothing may seem wrong, but what if we’re not standing back and doing nothing, by attempting to not force our personal views upon them? What if our negative viewpoint about what someone else is doing, produces more harm than good all around? What if when we believe we’re providing enlightenment to someone, form a place of negativity regarding their behavior, we are actually hurting those we are attempting to help as well as ourselves?

We can never force someone else to into a pattern of thought or belief they don’t desire. To try to pressure them into “changing their ways” only creates negative tension between them and us. In all cases, the most we can do for people is to love them where they are and allow them to be which they have chosen to be, even if it’s in direct violation with what we feel to be right. No matter what, we can never think, live or create for anyone else and to try will only bring frustration and negativity to everyone involved. Though it may be difficult, the most we can do in these types of situations is to allow others to be who they are while doing our best to think positive thoughts for them. They are here to gain their own personal experiences from life as are we, and it’s not our job to cheat others of their experiences, even when we don’t understand or agree.