Quote of the Week

“Abundance is, in large part, an attitude.” Sue Patton

What an excellent statement of truth. I’ve come across many who claim to believe that their thoughts create their realities, but for some reason they seem to think the idea has limitations. As if our thoughts only create certain parts of our realities, but then we have to look to the outside world for the rest. There are some things that are just so far outside the realm of possibility for some of us that we often block ourselves off from what we are wanting. We delve to deep into what’s happening now, as if that’s the only “truth” that’s “real.” People often focus on what is, because they find it too hard to separate themselves from what is and move their focus to what they want. I’m not saying this process is easy, it often takes a lot of work to build a bridge from a belief that says I can’t have, to a belief that says I can have, to a belief that even says I deserve to have.

Our attitude or belief about something determines the outcome regarding that something (like that don’t you *wink*). This applies in every aspect of our lives including our wealth. And to me wealth isn’t just how much money I currently have at my disposal, but more so a quality of life. To have true wealth, I have an abundance of all the things I desire. I have an abundance of good health, love to share, love being shared with me by others, exciting and wonderful experiences and of course money. What good is money if I don’t have any one to share my life with, or time to spend it? Your flow of money may appear abundant, but your life really isn’t truly filled with abundance if you are finding your life lacking in many areas, is it? How can one say they have abundance if they are feeling as if they are lacking.

In order to have true abundance, we must reach for thoughts that cause our lives to be filled, with all that we love and desire. We must learn to center our focus on ideas and principles that allow us to feel good, relaxed and relieved that all is well. To feel abundant is to choose to have a good attitude about where we are now and where we are headed. To feel abundant is to live life on purpose, intentionally choosing what we want, so that we feel good about it. Abundance is to be filled with joy so that no matter what, we always feel hopeful in that we can have whatever we want, whenever we want. To reach for a positive attitude is to reach for an experience filled with abundance.

Fun!

What’s wrong with a little fun… or even a lot for that matter? Why do so many people feel, as they get older, life should be more serious (or less fun). Often I see “adults” marvel or wonder about children. “If I just had a fraction of that energy…” “Oh, to see the world through rose colored glasses…” “They’re such trusting little people.” One day as I sat and contemplated the universe (which I often do) I wondered, would it be so bad if we allowed ourselves to have more of a childlike view of the world?

Children have a unique view on life. For the most part they seem to be filled with unabashed joy and love. They are not embarrassed to be who they are. They are not ashamed to laugh when things feel good, even if they don’t appear to make sense to those around them. They are not afraid to share in their emotions when they feel bad. They are pure life-force energy, still fresh from the source of all there is. And then what happens? The “grownups” come and try to “teach” the good stuff out of them.

Oh some people aren’t going to like that I said that, but it’s true. We teach them not to trust in people, except the ones we (their parents, teachers, etc…) approve of. We tell them that they don’t know what they are doing and in the process not to trust the inner guidance of their feelings/intuition. The feelings we insist that they ignore are the direct communication from their higher selves and so they begin to learn to pinch themselves off from source. They go from being the joyous marvelous people they came here to be, to just a shadow of that greater self and we think this behavior is more “grown up” because it’s what most of us were taught. We pass these things on to our children, not truly understanding how harmful these teachings can be to their true sense of self.

But from what I’ve seen, it’s us adults that can take some direction from our children. All they want is to be happy and for those around them to be happy. The sound of a baby’s (or child’s) laugher is so pure, people always want to hear it. It’s free and clear and amazingly pure. They don’t doubt themselves, you can just tell that they know life is there for the taking and the sharing. Their smiles are so wide and lovely, contagiously joyous, so that everyone else feels the need to smile with them. They know they are source energy in a physical body and it’s easy to see if you look for it.

The very traits that make them “childish” (for the most part) are the ones we have denied ourselves in our attempt to “grow up.” Because of this training we also teach ourselves that life should be difficult and we shouldn’t entertain the notion of having “too much” fun or enjoyment because it’s irresponsible. Of course if one believes that their thoughts are responsible for their situations and experiences then it would seem irresponsible to avoid focusing on fun or enjoyment… unless one’s goal in life is to be miserable and or joyless. How can we expect experience joy (fun) in life if we don’t allow ourselves to accept and believe that we deserve it and that it is necessary? I can’t think of anything wrong with wanting to experience enjoyment (fun) over the course of our lifetimes.

When we came forth into these physical bodies our intent was to experience joy, love and happiness. The objective in life is not to avoid so called bad things or act like they don’t exist. It’s to learn to overcome them in the best way possible, to know that even when we experience things we don’t like, life can and should still be wonderful and joyous. Like children, we should learn to dwell more upon the things that make us happy than the things that make us sad and learn to enjoy life and have some fun.

Let’s focus on having some fun!

Love,

Life Should Always Feel Good

Over the course of our lives we begin to succumb to the false belief that life does not always feel good. Even worse, that we should except the "fact" that most of the time we will be forced to deal with situations that will be less than pleasing. Learning to accept and deal with the "fact" that life is "hard" or "difficult" is said to make us more realistic people. Just to be frank, I think this concept or idea regarding the "practicality" of life is total crap (oh yeah, I went there).

In my opinion this concept is accepted, because too many people are unaware of how the universe really works. Also there is this common misconception that being positive all the time is living in a dream world. I say, what's wrong with that? When we are young we dream big and we dream hard. The sky is the limit to what we can imagine with our lives. As we become older we let the dreamer in us fall by the side to make way for the realist (or more rightly the pessimist).

These "realistic" people will have you believe that the only reality that matters are the experiences that are happening right in front of our faces. But in the true reality, this couldn't be further from the truth. As we know, our own individual thoughts create our own individual realities. Whatever is our dominant focus becomes our reality. Whether we want to believe this truth or not, doesn't stop the process from happening in this very way. So, if we only spent our time focusing on the things currently happening in our lives we would only ever experience those same things. In order to change our experiences we must first change our thoughts and expectations.

In order for change to occur we need to change our focus. Because it has been ingrained in us, we spend our lives working to please others. Instead of making ourselves happy we work to please our bosses, our parents... our lovers. While we are living the experience of sacrificing ourselves upon the alter of pleasing others, we tend to put what's in our hearts on the back burner. While we are living our lives in service of others, when are we supposed to do anything for ourselves? My answer is now!

Right now, today, we have the power to lead the lives we have always dreamed of. Though we have spent our whole lives being told that we aren't worthy, or we can't do something, or we can't have something... just because, doesn't mean that we have to continue to live these unfulfilled lives. We have the power to work on our unhealthy thought patters and gradually turn them into healthy thought patterns. Those dreams we had as children are still alive and well and even possible, today. All we have to do is learn to expect the best for ourselves and from ourselves, and work to align our thoughts with those desires and expectations. Of course it will take some time, but how much time is up to us. We can live the loves we want, if we so choose.

      

Quote of The Week

"Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway." Susan Jeffers

Not only is this a fabulous quote, but a fabulous book as well. Susan Jeffers gives some lovely insight as well as valuable methods on how to acknowledge the fears we have within our lives, but learn to face them and move past them in order to experience and enjoy the things that we desire. However, since I this is not a book review site, if anyone is interested in reading this book I have provided the link to her website to learn more about the author.

What I do like about this quote is how it acknowledges one of the main things that holds most of us back from doing the things we want most. So many of us hold fear next to us like a second skin. We are afraid that we are going to “fail,” never mind that there is no such thing as failure only growth. We are afraid that we may get hurt, physically or emotionally depending on the situation. We are afraid to look stupid in front of our peers, and I could really go on, and on, and on, and on, but I’ll stop there for now.

For some reason we often refuse to acknowledge these fears. If we admit fear than we look weak, or like we are giving up. On the other hand some of us will admit we have them and then use them for an excuse to not do what we want and hide it under the guise of realism. “I can’t do this because it’s not realistic.” When we say this what we really mean is, “I can’t do this because I am afraid I won’t be able to handle the outcome.” Sometimes we feel this way even if the outcome, will most likely good. Some of us fear our own greatness, because what if we learn to become great only to have it blowup in our faces?

Well the idea of feeling the fear and doing it anyway is truly empowering. To me it means that yes I acknowledge that I am concerned or unsure (or whatever) about a certain subject, but I’m going to take a deep breath, gather my wits about me and push through it anyway. We as human beings have pushed past much more than fear. We have moved past pains of all types, deaths, struggles, perceived failures and more. So why should we let the potential of something going bad deter us from our goals?

If you ask me, fear consists of the “what if” something goes bad more so than the actuality of the bad things happening. “It is reported that more than 90% of what we worry about never happens.” – Jeffers, Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway. What does that say about our fears and our worries? We imagine the worst and the overwhelming majority of the time we never experience these horrible things we fantasize about or invasion, and so what if we do experience that small less than 10%? We can deal with whatever we set our minds upon! Yes we can! Even when we resist bad things and they end up happening anyway don’t we move on? Don’t we continue to live and make it through, day to day? Yes, we, do! No matter the situation we have the ability to make it through. Let’s not allow the potential of bad things happening keep us from all of the good things!