What we feel has a powerful impact on the quality of our lives. When we feel happy, life is grand and it’s easy to stay in a positive mindset. When we feel down, life seems bad and it’s much easier to keep ourselves in the muck of sadness and depression. Though our feelings are powerful enough to sway our thoughts about life one way or another (or is it the other way around and our thoughts are what’s swaying the feelings of our lives) it’s important to remember, the way we feel is temporary.
When something bad happens, it is a choice to dwell on that bad thing that has happened to us. We can choose to learn from the experience and uplift ourselves or stay where we are creating more of the same. Sadness is a choice, as is happiness. When we feel good it’s easier to keep a positive mindset, but not so much when we feel bad. It is at this point that we have a choice to make. We can build a bridge from bad feelings to good feelings so that we can uplift ourselves to a more positive experience. I won’t even go into the alternative.
How do we build that bridge? We do it by finding thoughts and ideas that allow us to have a feeling of wellbeing. And it’s not so much the situation itself that causes issues in our lives, it’s the way we view the situation. So if we are in the midst of a bad situation then the object is to find a way to think a thought that allows us to feel better about it and distract ourselves from the thoughts that make us feel bad. You may say, “But this is avoidance.” Well, why don’t we view it from another angle? We create what we focus on and if we continue to focus on the negative aspects of something we draw it to us. So, it benefits us to focus only on the positive.
This is easier said than done in the beginning, but with practice it can work. The idea is to, not let our emotions weigh us down and wallow in bad feelings. Instead, when we feel these bad feelings, we should take the time, find out the cause of the bad feelings, work to no longer focus on them and instead find something we appreciate, love, or feel good about to focus on instead. In this way we can stop attracting things we don’t want and learn to align ourselves with that which we truly want. It works, if you work it!