Quote of the Week

"If true love has been eluding you, I suggest looking inside your self. The love - or lack of love - you see in others, is a direct reflection of the love you feel for your self." Gene Anger

What an amazing realization. I have heard through various resources, that we are only able to see in others, that which exists within ourselves. I can’t keep count of the amount of people I’ve come across in life looking for love… especially in the wrong places. Not only is this quote about love, but self love. I don’t think the majority of people I’ve met truly understood the enormity of self love. When we truly love ourselves we tend to be more loving toward others.

When we are bitter and/or angry about something, it’s usually because of something we’re lacking in our own lives. For example, when we get angry at a millionaire for “squandering” his/her money it’s usually because we are viewing life from a position of lack. We are upset that we don’t have the abundance that we feel the millionaire has and so we are bitter because we are not able to enjoy our lives as freely as they appear to be doing. I’ve seen the same thing happen with love or affection. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve met, that hate public displays of affection. Now I will admit I don’t want to see two people practically humping each other in the middle of Wal-Mart, but a sweet kiss shared or the holding of hands isn’t something to be frowned upon, after all who is it really hurting? Why would we begrudge two people in love their experience?

Often people look to find flaws in their relationships (this is includes friendships). When we look to find flaws, what does that say about us? Are we looking for their flaws so ours won’t seem so bad? Are we trying to find something wrong with them first before they can find something wrong with us? If we let our guards down long enough perhaps we could take a moment and decide if we are looking for things that make someone else unworthy for us or if we ourselves are the ones who truly feel unworthy. When you know that you are worthy of only good things, then only good things will come, because that is where your focus will lie. All love starts within and flows out, not the other way around. We will never find someone to give us the love we need to feel whole. That power only lies within us and when we find it and cherish it we will notice how it shines through every experience and relationship we have. There is no love like self love.