The Victim Mentality

This is a topic that upsets A LOT of people. When we feel someone has wronged or hurt us in some way we want to lash out. We want to dump every bit of the blame for the situation in their lap. This is a severe issue we have with blame. Life has taught us that to do something “wrong” or make mistakes is bad, bad, bad. When anyone ever does anything, wrong (especially if it’s something we perceive to be major) we as a society harp on it forever and ever and often publically flog people for their perceived wrong doings. So of course, when something bad happens to us it’s that much harder to take responsibility for our part in creating it.

When something “bad” happens to us, instead of trying to see the truth of how we created it and how we can learn to better create within our lives, we throw stones at the people we feel caused it. Since the only things that can manifest in our lives, are the things that we’ve created with our thoughts, it would make sense to reason that if someone has done some type of harm to us, it’s because we have somehow been focusing on that, which we don’t want and now someone has come along, in order to help us achieve it, by way of the law of attraction. Most people say, “That’s ridiculous, I don’t WANT bad things to happen, so what you say can’t be true.” But, I didn’t say that we only create what we want within our lives, I said we create based on where our thoughts are focused for the majority of the time. How many of us ONLY focus our attention upon things we want? I’m sorry, but the honest answer is, not one of us. Constantly, we focus on the things we’re afraid of, things we are against and things we don’t like. So, by focusing on these things we attract the essence and eventually the manifestation of them into our lives.

Let me make this clear. This isn’t a guilt laden post filled with “you are doing wrong by thinking about unwanted things” type of post. This post is about helping bring to light that fact that we are creating everything that happens to us. And, instead of placing the ball into someone else’s court and saying, “Fix what you messed up for me,” we can take the time to pay attention to the thoughts we consistently think and work to be more positive in our outlook toward life. This way, we will be able to place ourselves in more positions, to experience less of what we don’t want and more of what we do. By blaming someone else for the bad things that happen to us, we are focusing on that bad thing and reliving it over and over in our minds, which then draws more experiences that feel bad. But, when we take responsibility in the creation of our manifestations, through our thoughts, we can decide the path our lives will take. Possibly, we can work to avoid even having experiences that cause us to want to cast blame in the first place. A little food for thought. *wink*

Love,